Cynthia Nixon admits she is gay by choice

By Alexandra Heilbron on January 24, 2012 | 11 Comments

Although many gays and lesbians have been saying for years the gay lifestyle is not a choice, Sex and the City star Cynthia Nixon, 45, is speaking up to say in her case, it was a choice she made. She told The New York Times: “I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.” Prior to her relationship with Christine Marinoni (pictured here with Cynthia), she was with her college sweetheart Danny Mozes for 15 years from 1988 to 2003 and they have two children together. She added, “I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”

Comments & Discussion

  1. Kirsten • January 24, 2012 @ 12:25 PM

    I love you Cynthia.

  2. Colin Fox • January 24, 2012 @ 12:50 PM

    That is one ugly partnershe has there though.

  3. Thomas • January 24, 2012 @ 3:11 PM

    She was for sure the least attractive one on Sex and the City…but dam why would she choose to go gay with one fugly biznatch. Dam

  4. karyn • January 25, 2012 @ 6:04 PM

    Who knows, maybe the fugly one has got a super talented tongue?? Sorry TMI.

  5. Spanky • January 25, 2012 @ 9:04 PM

    You guys are mean! Fugly people need love too!

  6. Joan • January 25, 2012 @ 10:11 PM

    Finally, someone tells the truth. For some people, maybe it isn’t a choice, but I know for others it is because I know people who are attracted to the opposite sex but try the gay lifestyle just because they’re curious.

  7. Sassy Lass • January 26, 2012 @ 6:21 PM

    Perhaps the chicky is a smart lady…or i dont know..

  8. J. • January 27, 2012 @ 4:05 AM

    Isn’t it called bi-sexual?

  9. Navas • November 25, 2015 @ 3:53 PM

    Yeah you’re right, your friend is hobophomic and he sounds paranoid. I do a lot of stuff one on one with my straight buddies, hiking, going to movies, going out to eat, get ice cream, go for walks, etc I’m gay, but my buddies are all straight. Your friend just needs to relax. Its not gay to go to a movie with a guy unless they have sex afterwards.

  10. hana • May 7, 2018 @ 5:48 AM

    I mean, ever heard of bisexuality… So no it is not offensive to her ex male partners if she was bisexual all the time, and I don’t think it’s a choice… Like whatever u say man, but how are most straight people i know turned totally of by people of the same sex…huh? And also, how isn’t it then offensive to her female partner? …if she is saying she isn’t really gay? That it is just a choice?? So what does that mean, is she saying that she is not even attracted to her? Lmao get out of here…, You are bisexual, and it is not a choice. Face it.😃

  11. hana • May 7, 2018 @ 5:52 AM


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