Demi Moore blames Ashton Kutcher for alcohol relapse

By Alexandra Heilbron on September 25, 2019 | 30 Comments

Gwyneth Paltrow and Demi Moore at book launchDemi Moore‘s autobiography, Inside Out, was released on Tuesday and in it, readers will find an abundance of interesting anecdotes.

In addition to admitting she cheated on her first husband, Freddy Moore (whose last name she kept after their divorce), the night before their wedding, she writes a number of revealing tidbits about her third husband, Ashton Kutcher.

Most interesting is that she blames her alcohol relapse on him. She’d been sober for “nearly two decades” when Ashton, who was 27 when they married in 2005, commented, “I don’t know if alcoholism is a real thing — I think it’s all about moderation.”

Demi, who was 43 when she married Ashton, writes, “I wanted to be that girl. The girl who could have a glass of wine at dinner, or do a tequila shot at a party. In my mind, Ashton wanted that, too. So I tried to become that: a fun, normal girl.”

Now 56, she continues, “I didn’t think, ‘This is a kid in his twenties who has no idea what he’s talking about….’ Instead, I cast about for justifications.” She had a beer and spiraled back into addiction, and didn’t stop when she realized she was expecting. She blamed herself for the miscarriage of her daughter with Ashton when she was six months pregnant. She then began drinking even more heavily, which caused Ashton to become “furious.”

She details in the book: “Ashton had encouraged me to go in this direction. When I went too far, though, he let me know how he felt by showing a picture he’d taken of me resting my head on the toilet the night before. It seemed like a good-natured joke at the time. But it was really just shaming.”

Demi and Ashton separated in 2011 after Ashton was caught cheating on her. Their divorced was finalized in 2013.

Demi’s second husband, Bruce Willis, and their three daughters showed up to support her at the book launch of Inside Out on September 23 in Los Angeles. ~Alexandra Heilbron

Comments & Discussion

  1. CDubya • September 25, 2019 @ 4:36 PM

    Did Aston shame her or was she in denial that she was relapsed into an addiction and he had to show her how she is. Hugging the toilet daily or nightly is NOT a great state to be in. Maybe it was like a little intervention to show her how she looks from the outside looking in.

  2. Judy • September 26, 2019 @ 10:22 AM

    It looks like she isn’t taking any responsibility for her own actions. She decided to take that drink. You can’t blame someone else when they relapse.

  3. Nathan Elke • September 26, 2019 @ 10:23 AM

    Maybe a little shame would’ve been a good thing…one would have to read the book to be sure of the actual claim – this is just a short article for an entertainment website, not an in-depth book review.

  4. Maly • September 26, 2019 @ 11:47 AM

    As an adult child of an alcoholic, I can attest to one of the most infuriating aspects of an addiction to alcoholism, it is the rationalizing and blaming of “drinking” on anything and everything BUT one’s own capacity and ability to overdrink. There is always a because, and it is never because they themselves choose to do it. As horrible as the reality of it all is, I hated the lies more than the truth. Admit you are an alcoholic and that you choose to abuse it regardless of the why-even if it is a disease, and get help like one would for any serious affliction. Rarely are there good and noble reasons for drinking, but alcohol addiction is deeply entrenched overuse. Addictions are deeply complicated, but the denial is such a hurtful part of alcoholism to everyone involved, especially kids who are naturally prone to trust, when you lie to them you set up a lifetime of insecurity that they themselves need to learn how to cope with in a healthier manner than the example shown of drinking. Everybody has hurts and hangups, but you always have a choice how you choose to deal with it. Alcoholics lie to themselves and hope everyone will buy into it, but it is a desperate delusion, and anyone who enables the deception is playing Emporor’s new clothes.

  5. Lisbeth Slabotsky • September 26, 2019 @ 11:47 AM

    Unless he tied her down and forced the booze down her throat, she is responsible for her actions. I was abused by my late husband (sounds so good). He could not have done that without my tacit permission. I am not to blame for the abuse, but I was complicit. You’re an alcoholic. It doesn’t stop because you no longer drink. I’m a nicotine addict. I stopped smoking 32 years ago. I could blame it on my parents who smoked. But they didn’t put the cigarette into my mouth. I did. Take the responsibility for your actions.

  6. Thomas • September 26, 2019 @ 11:52 AM

    Unfortunately, until she looks in the mirror and admits she has no one to blame but herself she will never move forward or fully recover. Blaming someone else for her behaviour is childish. Time for her to grow up.

  7. Laurel Panchuk • September 26, 2019 @ 12:16 PM

    She I think is trying to make money. She hasn’t really acted in ages , has been out of the limelight. Yes, she married two famous people but who cares?? Ashton is a smart, savvy , entrepreneur. He has expanded his life outside of acting. Also their personal life is that. Personal. Bruce has children with her and I think he wants to maintain a good relationship with her because of the kids. She was on Ellen and talked about threesomes and such. WTF. She has adult kids I know but that is just TMI. She to me has lost all dignity. Also will not buy or read the book.

  8. Karen Munro • September 26, 2019 @ 12:23 PM

    This is so sad ..the fact that she felt she had to put it in a tell all book.I am a child of alcoholics including brothers and sisters..You my dear lady are in denial

  9. Dee • September 26, 2019 @ 12:24 PM

    Maybe your looking back realizing you messed up and shouldn’t have married a man young enough to be your own son ( well at 16 which happens). Of course at 27 he’s not going to know as much about life as a 2x divorcée. And once an alcoholic always you can’t blame him for you wanting to be “ that girl” he was just an excuse to try.

  10. Wendy • September 26, 2019 @ 12:49 PM

    It’s always someone else’s fault.

  11. Candace Edwards • September 26, 2019 @ 1:23 PM

    Demi, your a big Girl

  12. Rob • September 26, 2019 @ 1:35 PM

    She lies and lies and lies…..Why would anyone lie about having sex with John Cryer?? Grow up Demi..Anyone seen her last movie? Terrible!!!

  13. Tammy • September 26, 2019 @ 2:27 PM

    I think this book is only for money. She’s pretty much irrelevant these days. Sad but true.

  14. Ken • September 26, 2019 @ 2:27 PM


  15. Anne • September 26, 2019 @ 2:55 PM

    If Demi stayed sober for 20 years and had done so with the support of AA (or even if she did it on her own) she should know better than to think she could ‘have just one drink’.
    Pathetic that she even tries to use that excuse. Of course Ashton was a kid, but she was 43 and should have known better. Even through eyes blinded by love.. she should have known better.

  16. Sgt Michael McGrath • September 26, 2019 @ 5:55 PM

    Judge not,lest you be judged.

  17. Christina Rosa • September 26, 2019 @ 6:46 PM

    All of the above comments are sensible (in my humble opinion) and as a 43 yyear old daughter of a recently deceased alcoholic.Yup, she’s trying to divert some of her shame by throwing some “blame” on Ashton… not unusual… And yup, alcoholism is as much o a physical disease as it is a psychological disease. However, as well as personal experience, I also, feel strongly as a nurse for over 20 years now, the only true hope of recovering from the addiction, is to treat the reason you started. Addiction is a result of self-medication and as stats will show ,more than likely depression and or physical pain. Demi didn’t start drinking again because of anybody , she was depressed. She was suffering, not seeking medical treatment and started self medicating… I would even venture to say her relationship with Ashton may have also been a symptom of her depression (subconsciously attempting to self-medicate).I would have her treated for her depression and then introduce an addiction-ceasing program either conccurently or afterward if still requiring support.
    Anyway.. just chiming in with my (long-winded) 2 cents.

  18. larry skinner • September 27, 2019 @ 11:55 AM

    she has no one to blame but herself , she picked up on her own accord , and maybe showing demi the picture was or wasn’t meant to help her in the long run it did even though he was just probably thought it was hilarious .I am an addict in recovery and I own my shit now after 9 years plus the only person that can make me drink or pickup is me.

  19. Rebecca • September 27, 2019 @ 12:21 PM

    Unless youve been or lived with an addict youll never understand the temptation they feel. No hes not responsible for her relapse but if you date an addict you have to respect their choices. Cajoling her into drinking so he simply didnt have to abstain seems selfish and cruel and everyone knows this guy in the recovery community. This is why people are not allowed to even date in recovery. It is a serious process and any deviation can lead to relapse and death. She has children. Its just not right.

  20. Diana McLean • September 27, 2019 @ 1:13 PM

    Love the wall with “humpty dumpty fell
    – no he was pushed Someone else is always to blame

  21. barbara • September 27, 2019 @ 5:43 PM

    Addicts do not choose to relapse they suffer every day every minute from a chronic disease that drags them backward into hell. Self serving righteous nay Sayers could not possibly understand their plight. IT’S NOT A CHOICE IT’S A DISEASE. And the fact no one could possibly believe golden Ashton played any part in Demi’s relapse is not realistic. Shutterbug Ashton took a photo of her hugging a toilet for the sake o gun. Who thinks that was funny. My oldest granddaughter was an addict. That’s right past tense she died on our bathroom floor at age 27 of a drug overdose. She had been fired that day and her boyfriend broke off with her that day. She had just returned from a one year rehab her third attempt to get sober. This happened to my precious little girl. At first I screamed because of shock, then I was sleep walking, only screaming every time I realized she was gone. It’s been over a year now but the pain and loss continues. Ignorant people sit in judgement but God does not.

  22. Babe • September 27, 2019 @ 6:14 PM

    Wow! The comments here are so judgemental and unkind. What happened to support and empathy? Sticking up for other women? Ashton Kutcher is a jerk and unfortunately Demi seems like she was vulnerable with low self esteem so she tried to cater herself to him. This happens to women all the time. Sadly.

  23. Wanda • September 27, 2019 @ 9:13 PM

    Anything that has you by the horns is addiction. Drugs,food,alcohol,shopping… its all heartbreaking. I always told my son, never be addicted to anything except God. Yes, its a choice at first and then your hooked. Its very sad what happens when it does. Lessons learned all around. As far as Demi… I hope she has forgiven herself and all the people around her. No point in blaming anyone. Just hurts more. Forgive and pray.

  24. Bonnie • September 27, 2019 @ 10:42 PM

    As my most wonderful and loving Messiah and Savior said, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”

  25. Tonya palermo • September 28, 2019 @ 11:53 AM

    Her biggest problem is
    Codependence.When you change your Behaviour to keep another person thats codependency

  26. Patricia • September 28, 2019 @ 8:55 PM

    Why would Demi set herself up by marrying a guy so much younger? THAT could on its own provide her already fragile ego with enough incentive to REALLY beat herself up and then giving him the big F-U publicly by blaming him for her relapse. I wonder if Mila Kunis still finds him attractive?

  27. Pat • September 29, 2019 @ 1:30 PM

    Sad for Demi. Bruce Willis must be a pretty nice guy.

  28. Joseph • September 30, 2019 @ 3:52 PM

    How much sympathy are we supposed to muster for a woman sleazy enough to cheat on her (first)_ husband the NIGHT BEFORE HER WEDDING ??

  29. Ann Rozsi • October 1, 2019 @ 9:34 AM

    I heard her on Howard Stern recently. She has had a rough life. As a child, her addict mother sold her to a man for $500-he wanted to sleep with a virgin. She explained that she was unprepared for her meteoric rise to fame, and her coping skills and horrible self loathing made it difficult to function. I wish her nothing but happiness and peace. Walk a mile in her shoes before judging.

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    hi, i am woo from Sweden and i want to explain any thing about “pandemic”. Please ask me 🙂

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