Mackenzie Phillips is still facing backlash over an incestuous relationship with her father. What’s even more surprising is the resentment comes from her own family.
The 57-year-old One Day at a Time star first exposed her secret via her 2009 memoir, High on Arrival. She opened up about being raped by her dad John Phillips, of The Mamas & The Papas fame, when she was 19 and while both were under the influence of drugs. She also admitted it was the beginning of a 10-year-long affair.
In Mackenzie’s newly published book, Hopeful Healing: Essays on Managing Recovery and Surviving Addiction, she reveals certain family members hold her responsible and adds that as a result of her revelation, she is no longer welcome at family functions such as birthday parties.
According to a story published by PEOPLE, Mackenzie wrote, “Another family member was angered that I might attend [a birthday party], and I was told she was just not willing to forgive me yet. She wouldn’t forgive me! For abuses perpetrated against me as a child, or for exposing those abuses perhaps.”
At the time of her bombshell confession, select members of her family accused her of lying. Others were displeased she held on to the truth until her father was dead and incapable of defending himself.
Mackenzie’s dad John died at age 65 in March 2001.
Despite the hurtful response from her blood relatives, Mackenzie has found support beyond her familial circle.
She shares, “I’ve come to understand that some in my family have chosen to hold on to the pain and anger they felt when I came out with the truth about my dad. I understand that they’re still caught in a textbook response of devaluing the victim and holding up the perpetrator.”
The drug addict-turned-Breathe Life Healing Center drug counselor adds, “I’ve also had to accept that, of course, I’d be the target of negative reactions and feelings because I’m the one who wrote the book and told a truth no one wanted to hear. If you’re trying to maintain some sort of façade so you can avoid pain, the last thing you want is for the façade to be demolished.”
If you’re interested in reading more about Mackenzie, her book, Hopeful Healing: Essays on Managing Recovery and Surviving Addiction, released yesterday (Feb. 7) and is available online and in bookstores.
What do you think of Mackenzie’s family barring her from birthday parties? Should old wounds be healed by now? ~Matthew Pariselli