Ryan O’Neal says he’ll die with Farrah

Farrah and Ryan in 2003Ryan O’Neal is talking publicly for the first time about live-in love Farrah Fawcett‘s cancer. He told People magazine, “It’s a love story. I just don’t know how to play this one. I won’t know this world without her. Cancer is an insidious enemy.” He says the former Charlie’s Angel has lost her trademark hair. “The hair is gone,” says O’Neal. “Her famous hair… She didn’t care…She doesn’t have a vanity about it.” Farrah is bed-ridden and hooked up to an IV, and he says, “The treatment has pretty much ended.” However, her spirits have been lifted through visits from her former co-stars, Jaclyn Smith and Kate Jackson. Their son, Redmond, also visited her from jail last month, but O’Neal says, “Farrah doesn’t know Redmond’s in trouble. And Redmond is terrified for his mother. ‘I don’t want to be in jail and have some guard tell me she is gone,’ he said to me. I told him, ‘She’s rebounding.’ I lied to him. I lie to her. It’s the best thing.”  O’Neal, who’s 68 and has battled leukemia, admits that he can’t envison life without Farrah, 62.  “I can’t hear a song, I can’t pass places that we were together, without being stabbed in the heart,” he says. “A week ago Farrah said to me, ‘Am I going to make it?’ I said, ‘Yes, you’ll make it. And if you don’t, I’ll go with you.’

As seen in issue #397 of Movie Mail Newsletter

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  1. Nancy • May 8, 2009 @ 8:19 AM

    Gotta be stronger than that….get yourself and that boy off drugs! Make it your mission to straighten him out. Never give up on your kids.

  2. Jen • May 8, 2009 @ 11:54 AM

    What is nancy talking about.

    NOT this article.

  3. rori • May 8, 2009 @ 12:29 PM

    ‘Nancy”, is tryng to sya that Farrah should know about her son. Maybe that will give her the strength to ‘Want”, to live and get strongrt because her life would have a purpose, she would focus on her son, get him better, off drugs ect.

  4. tributegirl • May 8, 2009 @ 2:06 PM

    Lying to them is the best thing? I think not! When my childrens Godmother was dying from cancer, I was totally honest with them, it hurt, they cried, I cried, but when the end came it was so much easier for them to accept. And they were a lot younger than Redmond!
    I think Redmond should know that his mother is dying, and I think she should know what he is facing as well. Who knows, maybe on her deathbed she could have a heart-to-heart with him, and considering her situation, maybe, just maybe, it could have an impact on him.
    Poor Farrah, I’ve always liked her, even with all the fame, etc, she always seemed a lot more genuine (for lack of a better word) than so many Hollywood types.

  5. Nancy • May 8, 2009 @ 2:22 PM

    I do think that Farrah and Redmond should both know the truth but what I was saying Jen, is that Ryan needs to be stronger than what he is in this article…get himself and Redmond off drugs.

  6. Ximena • May 8, 2009 @ 5:21 PM

    just keep these people in your prayers, hollywood life must not be easy like one thinks

  7. Jan • May 8, 2009 @ 5:51 PM

    Beleive me
    She (Farrah) knows.

  8. Carol • May 8, 2009 @ 6:17 PM

    I think he should be honest with Redmond…maybe the lie to Farrah is okay, because why add to her stress…she doesn’t need that and there comes a point when, does it matter? Let her live out her life as happy as possible. And it is a shame for any child (regardless of age) to lose their parent. But if the kid wasn’t so messed up he would be where he should be. It’s a shame, but it is tough love, and he needs to deal with the fact that he has no one else to blame but himself as to why he is not at his mother’s bedside. That has to be hard for her. Hopefully this loss, when or before it happens, will help this kid straighten out.

  9. ke • May 8, 2009 @ 6:17 PM

    totally agree tributegirl. about the whole heat to heart, dying wish kinda thing. it might be the one thing that will get thru to him. and ryan lying to his son about his mother’s coming death? i don’t even know what to say to that.

    as for farah and ryan o’neil. i don’t know, i always found them kind of over self-indulgent. i read about how he practically abandoned Tatum o’neil (and her brother, i think). how he chose his girlfriend over his kids. maybe its false but if its not, that’s pretty self centered..

    but good luck to her all the same. this is a terrible thing to happen.

  10. mandee • May 9, 2009 @ 12:05 AM

    if ryan loves farrah as much as he says he does, i envy them both. its a sad situation for everyone involved, but to know that you served your purpose in life, you had children, you became famous, you had someone that you loved that loved you back…i would be able to die happily if that were me. i can imagine for ryan and redmond this is going to be a very very difficult thing to get over, but time heals everything. even when you dont want it to, or when it doesnt feel like it ever will.

  11. sparklingwall • May 9, 2009 @ 2:31 AM

    Heartbreaking to think about losing someone you care about that much. Our hearts are with you. I do agree honesty is the best key, but maybe its to each their own. Maybe he thinks Farrah hearing the truth could be too hard on her struggling body.
    Good luck

  12. Kathy • May 9, 2009 @ 2:36 PM

    I think that Redmond should know. If he doesn’t have a handle on his life now I am afraid that he will totally not care if his Mother’s death comes as a shock. He may just turn to the drugs instead of dealing with the death. Such events in anyone’s life takes a strong personality and stability to deal with. Obviously Redmond has neither so coming to terms with his Mom’s death will only drive him deeper into his addiction.

    I am with Ryan in the part about being reminded of all the good times. My husband passed away 9 years ago and I still survive by the memories.

  13. demigod • May 9, 2009 @ 2:50 PM

    The question is is he lying to her about ‘going with her’ if she doesn’t make it.

  14. Anon • May 9, 2009 @ 3:17 PM

    demigod on May 9, 2009 2:50 PM

    Obviously he’s lying. What a stupid and pointless statement to make. It would be a lot more beneficial to Farrah if Ryans promise to her is to make it his mission to straighten out the son so she can die in peace. That’s all parents really want in the end, to know their kids will be okay once were gone. But he cant, hes a bigger loser than the son.

    As for her knowing that shes going to die, give me a break. She know it, everyone at this point knows theyve reached the end. He sounds like a fool, romanticizing her death after all the shlt hes put her through. Amount of sympathy I have for Ryan = zero.

  15. tributegirl • May 9, 2009 @ 5:35 PM

    Agreed, anon, on the zero sympathy for Ryan.

  16. demigod • May 9, 2009 @ 5:48 PM

    Anon on May 9, 2009 3:17 PM

    Just wondering.. what’s he put her thru?
    He’s powerless to turn his son around. Redmond has to dig deep and want that for himself. What might help is having his mom plea with him on her deathbed to straighten himself out (if she knew of his troubles).

  17. Anon • May 9, 2009 @ 6:46 PM

    demigod on May 9, 2009 5:48 PM

    I may be mistaken, but were drugs not a problem with him as well? The dynamics in that household must have been hell. Not only are their kids users, but she couldnt even go to her spouse because he’s half the problem in the drug department.

    And you’re right about Redmond having to want to make the changes himself. What I meant was that in order to ease her suffering and allow her to pass with peace, he could have told her that he will do whatever he possibly can to save the boy. Either statement would be a lie, but the latter offers more hope. I’m sure she is well aware of the fact the kid is using. Maybe not that he’s in jail, but the drug problems yes. Still stand with the zero sympathy for Ryan. I even have more sympathy for Redmond and agree that maybe a deathbed plea might help.

  18. .. • May 10, 2009 @ 12:18 PM

    ryan is a bigger looser than redmond he will be no help. not only that but poor redmond has to live with a name like REDMOND 4 the rest of his life!

  19. tributegirl • May 11, 2009 @ 7:04 PM

    Well, Ryan is a loser, but maybe this will bring him back to reality. Hopefully it won’t make him & those kids worse.

  20. Sandy Phillips • May 14, 2009 @ 11:16 AM

    I’m Farrah’s age and have always like her. I watched her grow from just “another pretty face” to a wonderful serious actress (not enough Kudos). I not only came to respect her work, but I felt sorry for her when the world seemed to turn on her when her looks began to fade. Try to imagine after being one of the most beautiful women in the world, having the entire world staring, commenting and criticizing about how youre aging. She must have felt so self-conscious with everyone zeroing in on, and discussing every line and wrinkle. She is a sweet and gentle spirit, and I feel sorry that the world will lose a very nice person.

    Ryan ONeil was gorgeous too. I and millions of other young women “fell in love” with him during his Love Story era. But I dont think Ryan has the moral compass that Farrah has had. I think most people are disappointed that he has been so willing to throw it all away; his children, Farrah and his life, for recreational drugs and bad behavior.

    As far as Redmond goes, Im angry at that boy. Hes had it all, and like his father has thrown it all away for what? Hes not going to change. Google Redmond O’Neil in ten years. If he isn’t dead from an overdose, hell be ten years older and his life will be the same. The only thing his mothers death will change is that it will give him more of an excuse for his destructive behavior.

    Poor Farrah. It’s not fair. I will really miss her.

  21. tributegirl • May 15, 2009 @ 6:29 PM

    I read today that Ryan is also lying to Farrah’s 91 year old father. Doesn’t want him to know that she isn’t going to make it, apparently her father thinks that she is making a full recovery. When it does happen, it will be all over the news, what a terrible way for him to learn about it.

  22. Kay Richards • May 16, 2009 @ 5:08 AM

    She should go to the Foundation of Human Understanding. Before it’s too late. Some people have received miracle cures after doing the meditation and connecting with God inside. He’s the healer. Find him and live.

  23. Nancy • May 16, 2009 @ 12:46 PM

    “Miracle cures”???????????????????

    Yeah right!

    If you happened to watch ‘Farrah’s Story’ last night, you would have seen just how much she has “connected with God inside”. To say, “He’s the healer. Find Him and live.” is nothing but rubbish. Many, many, many who have found God have not been given this so-called “miracle cure” and have passed and many more will to come.

  24. highwaygirl • May 19, 2009 @ 6:41 PM

    WHO are you to judge anyone or make any remark too anyone…How someone should handle there own life. Thats God place shame on all of you…

  25. Nancy • May 19, 2009 @ 9:21 PM

    Oh…you must mean how YOU just judged us? This website is here for us to give our opinions on these articles…you don’t like that or don’t agree with that? Bzzzzzz OFF!

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